Being satisfied and pleased with oneself is one thing. Having respect for oneself is another.
Once we reach our goal, we gain confidence. We use this confidence to set new goals to achieve. That is what creative living is all about. But when should we be proud of our achievement? When we develop confidence on our own initiative, there is no shame in being proud of it. We don’t have to brag about it; but we can look at ourselves with kind eyes and, approval. We can accept our self for what we are and what we can be. This does not mean complacency, being satisfied with our lot and staying that way.
Complacency is a variation of conceit, because we like our self and go on like ourselves for what we have achieved, feeling we need not achieve anymore. Complacency and humility do not go together, but confidence and humility do. There is a hidden danger in being complacent. Soon we become passive and rest on our laurels, whatever they may be. Then we slowly retire from the realities of life. Creative living means that we must always keep moving in the stream of things. We can still enjoy a vacation now and relax in the room of our mind to renew our energies and our courage to tackle life’s problems. Complacency signals that we are resting too long. All rest and no work makes us dull, uninteresting, and lifeless.
So, no one can make us complacent without our consent.
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The happiest people seem to be those who have no particular reason for being so except that they are so.
Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed.
Every day we grow a little rich in the treasures that the heart is fondest of.
Happiness is the overcoming of not unknown obstacles toward a known goal.
Friday, March 26, 2010
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
REFRESH OUR MIND -- PART -- 33
PERCEPTION OF TIME IS IN THE MIND
Have you ever noticed that when we eagerly wait for an event, like spending holidays on a beach , it takes longer to arrive but the exams we fear come too quickly? Well, a new study says that this is because our perception of time passing depends on our state of mind.
The study, conducted by researchers at the Paris School of Economics, showed that different types of anticipation for an event affected how long people felt it took to arrive -- what is technically called its `anticipated duration'.
The feeling that you `can't wait for something' actually made it appear to take longer to come. On the contrary, the dread of a task makes time appear to fly.
The researchers found that waiting for an event creates impatience, which means we think about the event a lot and this seems to `expand time'.
Dreading an event, on the other hand, creates anxiety and this means we put it out of our mind and this has the effect of `contracting time'.
The researchers said that time is not absolute but can have a certain `elasticity', which will depend on the kind of emotions they are experiencing.
"When a person anticipates an event that generates a positive emotion, say spending the next holidays on a beach , she/he may experience impatience and she/he may feel these longingly awaited holidays will never arrive," the Telegraph quoted the authors led by Pierre-Yves Geoffard as saying.
"The anticipated duration expands. On the other hand, if this same person faces a negative event such as a difficult exam, she/he may feel anxiety and time seems to fly until this event," they said.
Have you ever noticed that when we eagerly wait for an event, like spending holidays on a beach , it takes longer to arrive but the exams we fear come too quickly? Well, a new study says that this is because our perception of time passing depends on our state of mind.
The study, conducted by researchers at the Paris School of Economics, showed that different types of anticipation for an event affected how long people felt it took to arrive -- what is technically called its `anticipated duration'.
The feeling that you `can't wait for something' actually made it appear to take longer to come. On the contrary, the dread of a task makes time appear to fly.
The researchers found that waiting for an event creates impatience, which means we think about the event a lot and this seems to `expand time'.
Dreading an event, on the other hand, creates anxiety and this means we put it out of our mind and this has the effect of `contracting time'.
The researchers said that time is not absolute but can have a certain `elasticity', which will depend on the kind of emotions they are experiencing.
"When a person anticipates an event that generates a positive emotion, say spending the next holidays on a beach , she/he may experience impatience and she/he may feel these longingly awaited holidays will never arrive," the Telegraph quoted the authors led by Pierre-Yves Geoffard as saying.
"The anticipated duration expands. On the other hand, if this same person faces a negative event such as a difficult exam, she/he may feel anxiety and time seems to fly until this event," they said.
Monday, December 14, 2009
REFRESH OUR MIND -- PART -- 32
FRUSTRATION…………A POSITIVE FORCE
Everyone experiences one kind of frustration or another every day. Whenever we are crushed under it, it becomes a chronic type of negative feeling. But when we derive some stimulation from it, it helps us solve a problem, not to yield to it. So frustration can be turned in to a positive force.
We have a servo-mechanism within us which can create ideas and find solutions to problems transforming us into creative artists. Instead, too many of us jam our creative mechanism with worry, anxiety and fear. This jamming of the creative servo-mechanism doesn’t serve us at all. It inhibits us from our goals, putting a road-block of negation in front of us, creating frustration.
THE ROAD BLOCKS OF FRUSTRATION ARE: We worry not only before making a decision but after. We carry this in our minds all day. The cure? Express anxiety before, but not after making a decision. Once we choose a road to take, we must stop worrying and call upon the confidence of past success to guide us in the present.
We must stop the worry and feel about yesterday, today and tomorrow. Think of only today. Treat every day as complete lifetime. Do your best, respond to the present. TRY, TRY, TRY – NOW, NOW.
Don’t clutter your day. Do one thing at a time. It frees you from the burden of hurry and failure.
Relax well. Put aside everything. A good night’s rest brings a beautiful and hopeful day back. Don’t wrestle with your problems twenty-four hours. So relaxation helps you overcome frustration. Don’t think of it. Work for it. Do it – Now.
Remember these words of Plato “NOTHING IN THE AFFAIRS OF MEN IS WORTH WORRYING ABOUT”.
The happiness which brings enduring worth to life is not the superficial happiness that is dependent on circumstances.
Identifying ourselves with the body is putting the cart before the horse and this is why we stumble in life.
When the mind unites with the soul, it overflows with joy and inexpressible delight.
Happiness should always remain a bit incomplete. After all, dreams are boundless.
Life does not teach us to expect nothing, but not to expect success to be the inevitable result of all our endeavours.
Everyone experiences one kind of frustration or another every day. Whenever we are crushed under it, it becomes a chronic type of negative feeling. But when we derive some stimulation from it, it helps us solve a problem, not to yield to it. So frustration can be turned in to a positive force.
We have a servo-mechanism within us which can create ideas and find solutions to problems transforming us into creative artists. Instead, too many of us jam our creative mechanism with worry, anxiety and fear. This jamming of the creative servo-mechanism doesn’t serve us at all. It inhibits us from our goals, putting a road-block of negation in front of us, creating frustration.
THE ROAD BLOCKS OF FRUSTRATION ARE: We worry not only before making a decision but after. We carry this in our minds all day. The cure? Express anxiety before, but not after making a decision. Once we choose a road to take, we must stop worrying and call upon the confidence of past success to guide us in the present.
We must stop the worry and feel about yesterday, today and tomorrow. Think of only today. Treat every day as complete lifetime. Do your best, respond to the present. TRY, TRY, TRY – NOW, NOW.
Don’t clutter your day. Do one thing at a time. It frees you from the burden of hurry and failure.
Relax well. Put aside everything. A good night’s rest brings a beautiful and hopeful day back. Don’t wrestle with your problems twenty-four hours. So relaxation helps you overcome frustration. Don’t think of it. Work for it. Do it – Now.
Remember these words of Plato “NOTHING IN THE AFFAIRS OF MEN IS WORTH WORRYING ABOUT”.
The happiness which brings enduring worth to life is not the superficial happiness that is dependent on circumstances.
Identifying ourselves with the body is putting the cart before the horse and this is why we stumble in life.
When the mind unites with the soul, it overflows with joy and inexpressible delight.
Happiness should always remain a bit incomplete. After all, dreams are boundless.
Life does not teach us to expect nothing, but not to expect success to be the inevitable result of all our endeavours.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
REFRESH OUR MIND -- PART-- 31
COLOURS CAN RELAX AND ENERGIZE A TIRED MIND
A SPLASH OF COLOURS CAN RELAX AND ENRGIZE A TIRED MIND, BESIDES EASING THOSE STRESS LINES ON OUR FOREHEAD.
Imagine a world without colours. Impossible! For it would look a dull, pallid canvas. To drive the drabness out of life, we need to make a happy splash of hues in our day-to-day usual business.
A rainbow of seven shades adds beauty to the sky and lifts our spirits. Noted English physicist Sir Isaac Newton's colour-disc proves this phenomenon. Similarly, a palette of chromes decks up a pretty painting. Hop into any art gallery and you will see a window of diverse dyes open out before you. “After a brainstorming session at work or a rough ride down a clogged road, a visit to an art exhibition is a great stress reliever. It invokes a sense of serenity and is always joyfully exciting," prescribes clinical psychologists.
It is justified to assume, that colours add a zing to the daily humdrum. Science tells us that colour is simply a light of varying wavelengths and frequencies. Exercising a strong impact on the minds, colours reveal tell-tale signs of our mood swings and body vitality.
Pigments help perk up our moods in hard-pressed situations. So, can colours really help to keep the blues at bay?
Often we choose colours to depict our emotions. According to colour therapy experts, colours not only affect sentiments, but also help tackle illnesses though healing properties.
Nature spreads out a charming carpet of colours. Enter a garden, stroll along its stony path or soak in the beauty of dew drenched meadows -- all our worries are washed away in a flash. "I walk a mile every morning for that burst of fresh oxygen. It is healthy to gaze at a spot of greenery. It not only relaxes your mind but also improves your vision," espouses a morning walker.
Take films, for example. A grand, colourful marquee always appears stunning to the weary mind. It instantly transports the mind to a different time-zone, detached from the present reality.
Even lessons at kindergarten become colourful as teachers introduce tiny tots to the world of doodling with crayons and colour pencils. A picture is worth a thousand words. Teach a nursery child with the aid of colourful props and drawings and the child will respond promptly, as opposed to mere writing or blackboard lessons.
Colours by far tingle a child's creativity and interest in learning at a preparatory stage. So whatever the stage of growth of scale of stress we are at, we could all use a dab of colour to wipe away our blues.
A SPLASH OF COLOURS CAN RELAX AND ENRGIZE A TIRED MIND, BESIDES EASING THOSE STRESS LINES ON OUR FOREHEAD.
Imagine a world without colours. Impossible! For it would look a dull, pallid canvas. To drive the drabness out of life, we need to make a happy splash of hues in our day-to-day usual business.
A rainbow of seven shades adds beauty to the sky and lifts our spirits. Noted English physicist Sir Isaac Newton's colour-disc proves this phenomenon. Similarly, a palette of chromes decks up a pretty painting. Hop into any art gallery and you will see a window of diverse dyes open out before you. “After a brainstorming session at work or a rough ride down a clogged road, a visit to an art exhibition is a great stress reliever. It invokes a sense of serenity and is always joyfully exciting," prescribes clinical psychologists.
It is justified to assume, that colours add a zing to the daily humdrum. Science tells us that colour is simply a light of varying wavelengths and frequencies. Exercising a strong impact on the minds, colours reveal tell-tale signs of our mood swings and body vitality.
Pigments help perk up our moods in hard-pressed situations. So, can colours really help to keep the blues at bay?
Often we choose colours to depict our emotions. According to colour therapy experts, colours not only affect sentiments, but also help tackle illnesses though healing properties.
Nature spreads out a charming carpet of colours. Enter a garden, stroll along its stony path or soak in the beauty of dew drenched meadows -- all our worries are washed away in a flash. "I walk a mile every morning for that burst of fresh oxygen. It is healthy to gaze at a spot of greenery. It not only relaxes your mind but also improves your vision," espouses a morning walker.
Take films, for example. A grand, colourful marquee always appears stunning to the weary mind. It instantly transports the mind to a different time-zone, detached from the present reality.
Even lessons at kindergarten become colourful as teachers introduce tiny tots to the world of doodling with crayons and colour pencils. A picture is worth a thousand words. Teach a nursery child with the aid of colourful props and drawings and the child will respond promptly, as opposed to mere writing or blackboard lessons.
Colours by far tingle a child's creativity and interest in learning at a preparatory stage. So whatever the stage of growth of scale of stress we are at, we could all use a dab of colour to wipe away our blues.
Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation. It is better be alone than in bad company…………George Washington
Always write angry letters to your enemies. Never mail them………………. James Fallows
I guess that’s how death works. It doesn’t matter if we’re ready or not. It just happens……………Randy K.Milholland
These days an income is something you can't live without-or within…………..TOM WILSON
Monday, October 12, 2009
REFRESH OUR MIND -- PART -- 30
WEIGHT LOSS MOTIVATION IS HAVING LOVE FOR SELF
Weight Loss Motivation
Motivation is the primary element among all the other factors, which determine our success and confidence in whatever we do. Motivation to lose weight is so important that it can be correctly said in absence of motivation, weight loss failure is guaranteed. Motivation is defined as the driving force that gives the performer the needed resolve to accomplish a specific objective and lets him become successful finally.
We all have problems with motivation at one time or another and weight loss motivation is no exception. One of the first rules of successful weight loss motivation is always make decisions, make them logically, make them quick, but most important, and change them slow.
Lack of weight loss motivation is one of the top reasons why you fail in losing weight successfully and permanently. Once you have discovered what your weight loss motivation is, you can then create a plan to achieve your desired weight.
Fat Loss Secret
I'm guessing you have tried to lose weight before, and in your attempt to do so you may have failed. The truth is that it's not your fault and you must know what the true cause of weight gain is and how you can overcome it.
The real reason that you are still overweight and unhealthy after trying every fad diet, exercise program, diet supplement, and piece of exercise equipment under the sun is because you have deadly parasites and life shortening plaques inside of your body that will not allow you to ever achieve the results you desire as long as they exist in you.
Anyone who is thinking of starting a diet or a weight reduction program of any kind would love a fat loss secret that works. But you should be aware of this: If you are working out trying to get 6 pack abs without the fat loss secret, you are losing out.
Always remember the ultimate goal of the weight loss motivation is to achieve a self-sustaining healthy lifestyle that comes naturally to you. Perhaps you would like to know the fastest and easiest way to drop those unwanted pounds, but is there really a fat loss secret that works. When it comes down to it, weight loss motivation is your ticket to both looking and feeling better for a long time to come.
REFRESHMENTS:
Associate yourself withmen of good quality if you esteem your own reputation. It is better be alone than in bad company.............GEORGE WASHINGTON
Always write angry letters to your enemies. Never mail them........JAMES FALLOWS
Weight Loss Motivation
Motivation is the primary element among all the other factors, which determine our success and confidence in whatever we do. Motivation to lose weight is so important that it can be correctly said in absence of motivation, weight loss failure is guaranteed. Motivation is defined as the driving force that gives the performer the needed resolve to accomplish a specific objective and lets him become successful finally.
We all have problems with motivation at one time or another and weight loss motivation is no exception. One of the first rules of successful weight loss motivation is always make decisions, make them logically, make them quick, but most important, and change them slow.
Lack of weight loss motivation is one of the top reasons why you fail in losing weight successfully and permanently. Once you have discovered what your weight loss motivation is, you can then create a plan to achieve your desired weight.
Fat Loss Secret
I'm guessing you have tried to lose weight before, and in your attempt to do so you may have failed. The truth is that it's not your fault and you must know what the true cause of weight gain is and how you can overcome it.
The real reason that you are still overweight and unhealthy after trying every fad diet, exercise program, diet supplement, and piece of exercise equipment under the sun is because you have deadly parasites and life shortening plaques inside of your body that will not allow you to ever achieve the results you desire as long as they exist in you.
Anyone who is thinking of starting a diet or a weight reduction program of any kind would love a fat loss secret that works. But you should be aware of this: If you are working out trying to get 6 pack abs without the fat loss secret, you are losing out.
Always remember the ultimate goal of the weight loss motivation is to achieve a self-sustaining healthy lifestyle that comes naturally to you. Perhaps you would like to know the fastest and easiest way to drop those unwanted pounds, but is there really a fat loss secret that works. When it comes down to it, weight loss motivation is your ticket to both looking and feeling better for a long time to come.
REFRESHMENTS:
Associate yourself withmen of good quality if you esteem your own reputation. It is better be alone than in bad company.............GEORGE WASHINGTON
Always write angry letters to your enemies. Never mail them........JAMES FALLOWS
Sunday, September 13, 2009
REFRESH OUR MIND -- PART -- 29
CONFUSION IS SYMBOLIC OF INTELLIGENCE AND GROWTH
Confusion simply means you have started thinking; you have started being an individual on your own. Confusion is not a bad state at all. Every seeker has to start with confusion. It is good that you are feeling a little confused. That shows the beginning of intelligence, because unless you have some intelligence you cannot be confused. The heart never gets confused; it simply knows.
Confusion means: new furniture in the house
Confusion comes only when something new comes. Whenever something new comes you have to read just yourself. Confusion means you have brought new furniture in the house; now you have to rearrange everything. Confusion is part of life. Only dead people are never confused. Confusion simply says that you are still alive, you are still growing.
Do your acts playfully
Whatsoever you are doing, do it playfully, don’t be serious about it. And then there will be no question of confusion. Whenever you are confused, that simply shows that you have come against something in yourself which needs to be changed. You have come across a block — that block has to be dissolved. Somewhere you have some habit, some pattern, and some structure that is creating trouble; that structure can be changed. Don’t be worried!
Confusion and certainty are together
When there is confusion, there can be certainty; when confusion disappears, certainty also disappears. It is the most beautiful moment in one’s life when there is neither confusion nor certainty. One simply is, a mirror reflecting that which is, with no direction, going nowhere, with no idea of doing something, with no future, just utterly in the moment, tremendously in the moment.
Life is paradox
Life has tremendous mystery in it because it is based on paradox. You are feeling confused because you have a certain fixed idea about how life should be — you don’t allow life to be as it is. The confusion is of your own creation.
The moment you accept that I don’t know, all confusion will disappear, simply evaporate – just as dewdrops evaporate in the early morning sun, leaving no trace behind them.
Meditation is a state of clarity, not a state of mind.
Mind is confusion. Mind is never clear. It cannot be. Thoughts create clouds around you. A mist is created by them, and the clarity is lost. When thoughts disappear, when there are no more clouds around you, when you are in your simple beingness, clarity happens. Meditation is clarity, absolute clarity of vision. You cannot think about it. You have to drop thinking. Let thoughts settle themselves. You just sit gazing at the wall, in a silent corner, relaxed, loose. You remain alert inside but the whole body moves into deep relaxation.
Courtesy Osho International Foundation/www.osho.com
Confusion simply means you have started thinking; you have started being an individual on your own. Confusion is not a bad state at all. Every seeker has to start with confusion. It is good that you are feeling a little confused. That shows the beginning of intelligence, because unless you have some intelligence you cannot be confused. The heart never gets confused; it simply knows.
Confusion means: new furniture in the house
Confusion comes only when something new comes. Whenever something new comes you have to read just yourself. Confusion means you have brought new furniture in the house; now you have to rearrange everything. Confusion is part of life. Only dead people are never confused. Confusion simply says that you are still alive, you are still growing.
Do your acts playfully
Whatsoever you are doing, do it playfully, don’t be serious about it. And then there will be no question of confusion. Whenever you are confused, that simply shows that you have come against something in yourself which needs to be changed. You have come across a block — that block has to be dissolved. Somewhere you have some habit, some pattern, and some structure that is creating trouble; that structure can be changed. Don’t be worried!
Confusion and certainty are together
When there is confusion, there can be certainty; when confusion disappears, certainty also disappears. It is the most beautiful moment in one’s life when there is neither confusion nor certainty. One simply is, a mirror reflecting that which is, with no direction, going nowhere, with no idea of doing something, with no future, just utterly in the moment, tremendously in the moment.
Life is paradox
Life has tremendous mystery in it because it is based on paradox. You are feeling confused because you have a certain fixed idea about how life should be — you don’t allow life to be as it is. The confusion is of your own creation.
The moment you accept that I don’t know, all confusion will disappear, simply evaporate – just as dewdrops evaporate in the early morning sun, leaving no trace behind them.
Meditation is a state of clarity, not a state of mind.
Mind is confusion. Mind is never clear. It cannot be. Thoughts create clouds around you. A mist is created by them, and the clarity is lost. When thoughts disappear, when there are no more clouds around you, when you are in your simple beingness, clarity happens. Meditation is clarity, absolute clarity of vision. You cannot think about it. You have to drop thinking. Let thoughts settle themselves. You just sit gazing at the wall, in a silent corner, relaxed, loose. You remain alert inside but the whole body moves into deep relaxation.
Courtesy Osho International Foundation/www.osho.com
Monday, August 24, 2009
REFRESH OUR MIND -- PART --28
THE 'PRESENT MOMENT' IS THE MIND PLAYING ITS LITTLE MANAGEMENT GAME ON YOU.................BUT THE 'PRESENT' NEED NOT BE A MOMENT AT ALL
"The timeless midst the transient, the awareness amidst the flux" Join back the little slivers of time that you have unwittingly split up with your own hands. Regain a continuing sense of the present. The so called `present moment' isn't here now and gone the next instant. Flow with nature and discover for yourself if your `present moment' can continue longer, through the hour, through the day. Allow that little fleeting instant to stretch out. Rejoin the fragments of your life that have been broken into little manageable bits of `10 AM, meeting with boss', `10.15 AM, meeting with client'. Have a `whole day meeting with self" -- no boss, no client, no computer, nothing to tell what time it is. Remove the scheduler, the task manager, the wrist watch, the little digital dial with its virtual ticks marking out an irreversible, irredeemable slice of your life that was here now this instant and gone forever the next. Reset your life, gain freedom from gadgets that have cut up your conception of time into little pieces. Let man made, machine made time fly out finally and completely, never to return again, at least not with the same manic force and strength.
Ancient man measured time by the moon and seasons. For him time was something completely different from what it is now. You can call him primitive, call him out dated, but remember this -- his present moment lasted much longer, he was more at peace, more in sync with the universe than we can ever be. Try and flow with rhythms of nature that our ancestors understood so well, and which no longer make sense to our chopped up world. There is time marked by day and night, a full twelve hours each -- something you will understand only if you find yourself in a silent remote place with nothing to do except watch the sun rise and set, watch the stars wheel around and fade, and watch the sun rise again.
There is time marked by phases of the moon, lasting twenty eight days from a full moon to a full moon. There is time marked by rhythms of seasons, and if you can ever learn to mark your time by this you will be a completely different person for the rest of your days. There are also rhythms beyond the solstice, almost beyond the ken of human grasp.There are visitations of comets, like Halley, which returns every 72 years. The human life span isn't long enough to mark time by this. Then there are longer rhythms way beyond human reference. There is the coming and going of the ice age, for instance, and even longer rhythms beyond the grasp of science.
All time is, in a sense, mind. Understand this and change forever. The `present moment' is the mind playing its little management game on you.Because the so called `present' needn't be a moment at all, it could be an hour, a day or the rest of forever. The faster time flows, the more restless your mind is, and the smaller your `moment' is. Soon a point is reached where the mind is so frayed by whirling events that the present `moment' has gone completely.
Life is then a daze where events are happening in a blur and there is no grasp of the now. Conversely, when you flow in deep meditation, time seems to stop completely, the everyday mind fades away and a deeper mind surfaces, bringing with it a different far slower sense of time.
If we choose to, all can always become now. If you can slip out of the clutches of manmade time, and slip into the rhythms of time as nature made it out to be, you sense a deep expansion of the present moment. Understanding time completely means reaching a point of stillness where time disappears. At that point, the mind also disappears. Suddenly the truth hits home. There is a part of us which is timeless. A part of us which can never be ravaged by time. Seek that timelessness amidst the transience. Feel that stillness in the storm.
REFRESHMENTS:
The Bible tells us to love our neighbours, and also to love our enemies; probably because generally they are the same people............G.K. CHESTERTON
Marriage is a great institution, but I'm not ready for an institution yet..............MAE WEST
If you are going to do something wrong at least enjoy it..............LEO ROSTEN
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